REAL LIFE UPDATE

Dr. Tami Talks: Real Life Update 

Dr. Tami gets raw and real in this episode as she shares her journey of sobriety, the power of mindset, and the importance of nervous system work in creating a fulfilling life.

She kicks off this episode with a celebration for her return to podcasting while she reflects on what it means for her to be celebrating eleven years of sobriety.

You'll love this episode if you're into discussing the importance of authenticity and change, how you can achieve empowerment through mindset, how to create meaningful shifts in your mindset for lasting results, and if you want to discover how you can embrace all of life as feedback that fuels your growth from this moment onward.

It's layered, nuanced, unscripted and unedited.  
It's the new Dr. Tami Talks podcast format going forward.
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Transcript

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Hello. Hello. Hello. How are you? My dear friend. It's been ages. Welcome to the show. Dr. Tammy talks. I'm your host. I am your host. I am your host. Dr. Tammy, gosh, it's been a while. I, you know, I had a baby. And then I thought I wasn't gonna really take this long of a break, but my goodness gracious, baby boy is going to be nine months old this week. And today I am celebrating 11 years of sobriety, 11 years since I put down the drink and I am. Overwhelmed with gratitude in my heart, my whole body for how magnificent this life is and can be. And. I knew it was time to get back to podcasting because I keep seeing how many people are still after nearly a year long hiatus, people are still downloading this podcast, like numbers that are kind of blowing my mind. And so. It's been so evident to me that there is something important about what I'm doing here, that it is helping people and I'm all about that. Like, that's my jam. If I know that this, that my work moves you, inspires you, speaks to you, inspires you, motivates you, elevates you, expands you, well, ain't I just going to keep doing it, right? Ain't I just going to show up? Because it was all about you from the get go was all about you from, from the jump. And there's a few things that are going to change around here, and I hope you like the changes. We're going to go more raw, we're going to go more real, I am like totally eliminating the whole production esque thing that had been going on here. There's no intro, there's no outro, there's not going to be really hardly any editing going on. Going forward, you're going to see me raw and real baby, and I'm kind of into it. It is challenging this perfectionist part of me that is kind of freaking out that is kind of like, Oh, wait a minute. What if they know how big of an idiot you are? What if all of these people now realize that you actually don't have your shit together and you just gave them your highlight reel and now you're going to show them the whole reel? What they're just going to tune you out and maybe you are, but I have a feeling that there's going to be a whole lot more of you that are going to stumble upon this and go, here's a real woman. Here is a real person doing real life, shit, real work. And I dig it because we all want to do real life work, right? This is, this is real life, baby. And uh, I am so moved today because I might cry. I am crying because we can change. We, we don't often know how powerful we are at creating our own lives. And when I experienced my anniversary, I am so moved by how massive our capacity for change is, and it wasn't until I realized the role of my mindset in fueling and creating everything in my life. I kept looking for external things, right? Like this achievement, this accomplishment, this profession, this work, that work, these accolades, these pats on the back, this amount of my checking account, whatever savings account investments, whatever, as indicators of something about me. I was so outsourced and my journey of recovery has shown me again and again and again, how this life is actually an inside job. What we experience outside of ourselves all comes down to how we feel and think about ourselves about this world. About others, about love, about money, about security, about our worthiness, about our good enoughness. It is like, it is our beliefs, our chronic state of thought that creates our chronic emotional state, our energetic state. And all of that determines the results of our lives. And we can get confused. I still get confused. I still like every once in a while, like think it's something outside myself. And I love this question that Joe dispense. I heard him ask this question once where he said. At what point do I stop thinking I'm the creator of my reality? And when I answer that question, I know where my work is for the day. And I have been asking myself this question on a daily basis, ever since Theo was born, and it is such a reclamation of my power. I'm sharing it with you because I want you reclaiming yours. At what point do you stop thinking you're the creator of your experience? You This is your work for the day. How cool is that? How cool is that? Because we forget that we are the creators. We were born creators. And it is always an inside game. It is always my mindset. And it's always your mindset that determines how you perceive process and proceed in this life. And I find this actually very reassuring as, as terrifying as it is to be the sole, be solely responsible for our experience of life. It is also incredibly empowering because now you know where to go to work. You know, the only place that ever really mattered was actually you. How freaking beautiful is that? I think that's the best news. This is the best news ever. And when we can laugh at ourselves and we can realize it's all just feedback. What if everything in your life was just feedback about how you were thinking and how you were feeling? And what if we took all of the shame and all of the blame right out of it? Like, what if I didn't have to feel any more shame for my. Drug addiction for my alcoholism for my shopping addiction for my somewhat like, you know, high anxiety OCD like tendencies. What if I didn't have to feel any shame about my ADHD? What if I realized how powerful my mindset really was? And honestly, If you've been listening to me for any length of time, you've, you already get it, you know, the deal, you know, the drill. If you're serious about mindset work, you're serious about nervous system work because your nervous system, if it's not balanced, if it's, if we don't do nervous system rebalancing work, then we're really, it's like tying one hand behind your back. Like, why would you even do that to yourself? Although sometimes we like a challenge, don't we? I see all you high achievers out there trying to prove your worth. I'm going to do that shit with one hand tied behind my back. Yes, I am. And that was me for a while too. But I like both my hands now. And, um, so where was I going with this? Um, And we're not going to edit this out. We're going to keep this in here. But if you do nervous system work, you are doing 80 percent of the mindset work for yourself because the brain is a transceiver, right? It's transmitting and receiving. It's a transmitting and receiving mechanism. And. It's interesting, even from just a functional standpoint, when we do functional MRIs, when we're in a stressed state, the metabolic activity of the brain is all diverted to the posterior regions of the brain, really the brain stem. So the most inferior region of the brain. I say inferior anatomically speaking, but also possibly inferior in terms of the level of IQ that we have access to when we're operating from that region of the brain. And so, when we're in a. Highly coherent nervous system state, which is that we're in harmony between the parasympathetic and the sympathetic nervous system. We see that the metabolic activity moves into the prefrontal cortex. This is the region of the brain that's right behind your forehead. And so this prefrontal cortex is the part of the brain that separates us from all other species. And it's interesting. That it also is our seat. I believe it is a way that we have of accessing our highest selves. It is a way of achieving emotional equanimity. It's a way of gaining a capacity for processing emotions, for being less stressed overall, which. Obviously, as I mean, that's emotional rebalancing right there, just by balancing our nervous systems. And it's interesting that the thoughts that we think when we are in balance tend to be the thoughts that promote a good life. And we receive thoughts when we're in a coherent state. We end up receiving thoughts because we're in a state. A different brainwave state, we are, we are receiving different thoughts from the field. So interesting to me, and I won't stop talking about it because I think we forget again and again and again, we forget, we think that if we could just think more positive thoughts, if we could just focus our mind a little more, if we could not be somehow damaged, somehow doomed. Right. This idea that it, it all started in our childhood. That's true. I'm not going to pretend that's not true, but you have a hundred percent sovereignty over your interstate. It's important to me that you know that because yes, trauma is inherited. Yes. You're the stress you experienced in your childhood has an impact on you today, but it no longer has to determine your future. We get to decide, but there's a capacity and an ability. Right, that we have to exercise in order to be the masters of our fate. Just knowing it isn't enough. We need to know how. Right. It's another thing I often think about. Joe Dispenza often says, you know, the time of, of knowing is like, that's over. It's the, it's a time to know how. We want to know how to change, how to shift our brain, how to shift our nervous system, how to make this work. And that's the work I love doing with people. So if you're in my world, if you're in my sphere, you know, you know, what's up, you know, the results you're experiencing, you know, the real deal. So honored to be on the journey with you. If you're listening to this, you're already on the journey. I'm so honored, um, to have you listening. I am, I am in the magic today. I am grateful. I am grateful for my world falling apart. I am grateful that I walked into the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous. I am grateful that I saw mindset work and action. I was able, you know, that was like a real life experiment. Like you want to see how people can go from the bottom of the bottom and make it back. You walk yourself into a room of Alcoholics Anonymous and you're, you're, you're, and you stick around a little bit, that'll blow your mind, my friend, that will blow your mind. What is possible? And, and just as often as I've seen people turn their lives around, I've seen people turn their lives around it and, and somehow slide right back, you know, like none of us are guaranteed. This is not one undone. You don't do mindset work one day and you're like, you're done for the rest of your life. This is like the best, I mean, this is, this is how you manifest your life, right? We do it one day at a time and we do it every day. And the thing is, is once you start seeing positive change in your life, it gets so exciting. It is so thrilling. And then the work is to continue realizing how worthy you are, how worthy you are because you are, because that becomes the limit. I was just saying on a meeting today, like how good can it get? I can't wait to find out how good can it get? I ask you, I want you to entertain this question for yourself. How good can it get? And let the answer excite you. Don't you want to find out, right? The upper limit problem, right? This, this is, this is where we all, we all fall to our level of worthiness. Something I heard recently that I can't get out of my head because it's so true. We don't rise to our highest level of potential. We rise to our highest level of worthiness. And the same is true of the fall when we fall from our achievements, when we stumble, when we backslide, we fall to the level of our worthiness. And I had a lot of worthiness issues and I'm willing to work on them. I'm willing to do the belief work. I'm willing to listen to subliminal soundtracks. I'm a really, I'm willing to journal. I'm willing to. Get real clear on bringing the unconscious to the conscious light so that I can see these things in action and go, Oh, isn't that so interesting? Oh, that little bit is still here. Everything is just feedback. Everything is just feedback showing me my beliefs, my chronically entertained thoughts, my chronic, energetic, emotional patterning. Not a problem. So good to know. So good to know, I would rather know even when it's humbling and it's painful and it's, and it's difficult, I would rather know because I can change and fix what I know. We don't know what we don't know. We don't know how trapped we are. We don't know it's mindset until we start doing mindset work. That's what's so funny about it. We don't know what we don't know. All right, my friends. Here's to knowing a little bit more every day. Here's to being willing to let it all be feedback and take ourselves off the hook. Here's to ditching shame and blame once and for all. Put that stuff away. It doesn't help you. And here's to seeing how good can it get. Keep coming back. Keep listening because we're going to find out. We are going to find out. Thank you for tuning into this episode of Dr. Tammy Talks, raw and real. I think I'll be coming back at you just the same way next time. Bye.