Why Hope Isn't Enough

Are you hoping things will get better in your life?  Are you hoping you can turn things around?  Are you hoping your health, love life, relationships or finances will improve?

At some point we all rely on hope.

Hope is the life preserver that saves you when you’re drowning.  

But, contrary to popular belief, you can’t live on hope.

In the long-term, hope actually leaves you disempowered, stagnant and stuck.  

This episode will inspire you to take your hope and use it to reconnect to your own inner knowing. It’s time to KNOW your power, your influence, your creative capacity to change and create change in your own life.  

This is where things change, this is where the juice is, there is where the joy of living is unleashed in your own life in remarkable ways.

May this episode stimulate your mind and stir your soul as you trade in hope for knowing your vast potential for creating the change you seek…in yourself, in your affairs, and in your life!

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Transcript

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Hello there. Welcome to this episode of Dr. Tammy Talks. I am so happy you're here. Thanks for choosing to hit play and listen. Spend a little time with me. I am thinking about hope. And I have such an interesting conversation, monologue, whatever to share with you about this because I think my take on this is rather unique. I want to preface this conversation by saying that I lived on hope for years and. I thought it was a good thing and sometimes we need hope. Hope is like a life preserver. It's the lifeboat that we have to get in and we clinging to when the ship that we've been sailing on is sinking. Right. It is a lifesaver for sure. For sure. And I lived on that little lifeboat for so many years, and I wanna tell you why it's not a place to live. The analogy or metaphor that I wanna sort of play with here is this idea that like imagine your life the way that it was as like the sinking ship. Right. Whether it's burnout, drug addiction, alcoholism, shopping, addictions, financial crisis, divorce, health crisis, whatever it is, that's the sinking ship, right? And you're clinging to hope like a life preserver. It's the life vest, it's the lifeboat. And it's hoping that things can turn around, hoping for health and healing, hoping that you can turn this business around, hoping that you can save this marriage, hoping you're gonna stay sober today, hoping that you can like really solve this burnout thing, right? Like hope, hoping I lived in the boat of hope. And it got me some gains, right? There is a certain amount of benefit that we get when we're hoping for a better future. But my friend, don't stay at hope. Don't stay in the lifeboat. You cannot live in a life vest, right. It's a transitory phase and what it's the transition to is you swimming, you doing the work to get yourself to shore, to stand on the solid ground of knowing. Right now you're on the sand. Now you're on land. You can spread out, you can lay out, you can trust. There's total safety, security. This is what comes from knowing that you can turn it around. Knowing that you are connected to all that is intimately directly, that you are the creator of your own experience, that your mind is a magnificent, that your energy is powerful, that you are indeed made in the image of your creator as the creator of your life experience. This is where I want you to land. And it wasn't until I was working with a wisdom keeper at the time, and she was a Tibetan Bond teacher, and she said to me, hope is useless. And it shook me to the core because at this point I had basically been living the last two and a half years on hope. I was, I was, I was beside myself. I was like, what are you talking about? I live on hope. How could hope be useless? It made no sense to me. I desperately needed a conversation with this woman, and it was fascinating to me that as I sat with that in my own meditation practice, as I sat with that and I asked my inner knowing, what does this mean for me? What does this mean? Hope is useless. Where? Where is this pointing me to? And it finally dawned on me that hope is supposed to be the gateway to knowing. Knowing our creative power, knowing how influential we are on the reality that we experience knowing that our personality can change, and as we change our personality, our personal reality changes, having this window of insight into realizing our personal reality is made up of outside people, circumstances, situations. Institutions, society, culture, so forth. And either we let that shape our personality or we own our personality and we overcome ourselves again and again and again, and we become who we want to be in this life. And now our personality changes our personal reality. We are either being created or we are creating. There's kind of like no other way hope is, I hope I get created in the way I want it to go. I hope things work out for me. Knowing is I know things are always working out for me. I'm gonna start looking for all of the evidence that proves how true that is. And I am going to start writing the story of my life in retrospect, in present moment, that everything is always working out for me. How do I want it to go from here? Knowing that what would be an exciting next segment, next chapter, how next book, whatever. Close the chapter on this one. Start a new one. Whatever you wanna do. So I just, I know this is a little controversial. It certainly was controversial for me when I first heard of it, but I am telling you now that whenever I start dancing in the territory of hope, whenever I start dabbling in it, like, oh, I just hope this works out. I hope this deal goes through. I hope this collaboration is successful. I hope, I hope, I hope I am onto myself because in the state of hoping I am actually disempowered. In the state of hope I have, I have disconnected myself from my creative power in my life in that hoping I have outsourced the creative process of my own life and it doesn't necessarily feel good. Whereas when I go, okay, I am a co-creator in this relationship. I am a co-creator in my life, and I know that. I know that if I hold the vision, if I cast the consciousness for the highest possible vision, highest possible outcome for all involved, I amplify that potential and possibility in the field of all that is And as I spend time in that knowing. Now I am radiating that into the field. Such cool stuff. And when I know something is gonna work out, I get to settle down, don't I? I'm inviting you to play with this. In your own life, are you hoping for circumstances to change or do you know that you can be the cause of circumstances changing? It's like we're either at the cause of our life or we're at the effect of our life. Are you causing shit to happen or are you affected by this shit that is happening? It's so simple and whenever I'm hoping for something I'm not at cause. And there is benefit to hope. I think that when we are in crisis, when we're in our darkest of dark places, hope is the thing that allows us to cast a consciousness, to cast a vision of possibility, even when it defies logic, even when it defies possibility. I remember being so down and out. Facing bankruptcy in the depths of my burnout, feeling so ashamed, feeling terrible about myself, and hoping that it could be better. That it would be better, and, and that was a lifeline for me, but I sat there for too long. And I wanna prevent you from sitting there for too long. At first, hope feels good. It's like a wafer given to somebody starving. It's a sip of water to somebody desperate dying of thirst. It's a lifeline, it's a life fest to those who are drowning, but we can't live there. We're not empowered to act in our life. We can't walk on our own two feet. We don't have strength. We don't have power. We don't have resilience. We don't have fortitude. We don't have perseverance. We don't have the great creative capacity that we've been born with. We don't have access to that. Until we're on solid ground, and that solid ground is the space of knowing. That's the territory of knowing how powerful you are in your own life and living from that place. Hmm, such good stuff. So I would love to hear from you. If you wanna screenshot this episode, share it on your story. Message me on, uh, Instagram or LinkedIn. I wanna hear from you. What are your thoughts? Am I crazy here? I know I am. It's fine. You can say it or am I a genius? Because there's a fine line between the two and for a long time, Einstein was considered straight up crazy and that man was a genius. So what we think is crazy today ends up being genius in retrospect, my friends in many, many instances. So I also am curious where you are clinging to hope and where you are gonna trade it in, where you're gonna do the work, whatever work it is that you need to do. Whatever. Mindset shift, whatever belief, work Like you are gonna go to work, baby, and you are taking yourself all the way to knowing, because once you know that you have this power in your life, no matter how far down you've gone, no matter how dark it is today, you know that you can change, that your life can change. Because your brain can change, your life can change, and because you can learn how to do that, you can learn how to live a whole new kind of life. I want you knowing that. I want you knowing how powerful you are in your life. I want you knowing that the health, the happiness, the relationships, the love, the joy, the prosperity, the abundance, I want you knowing. That you get to have and create and enjoy and share all of that with other people in this life. And when you know that you get to live it. I'll ride my friend. This is for you if you're clinging to, to hope like I used to, and you just need a little nudge. To go all the way to knowing. I wanna hear what happens for you once you're there. It's gonna be magnificent. I'll see you there on the shore. We'll be dancing together at the water's edge, my friends, and we'll toss those life preserver of hope. To the next drowning person, and we're gonna say, here, use this, but don't live there. There's no place to live. You take this preserver and you kick your ass all the way back to shore, and you meet us in the land of knowing where we can truly thrive and create lives we love together. Honored to be on the journey with you, my friend. Thanks for tuning in to this episode of Dr. Tammy Talks. If you like what you hear, I wanna hear from you. Post that on whatever review. What is that Apple Podcast? Share it with your friends, share it with me. I love you. Have a great day. Catch you in the next episode.